Tuesday, September 23, 2014

5 Things we should never do at work

Its Day Tuesday...
It seems to be dull and i feel dull today....
Everyday at work has its lessons, we face a lot of things when working, because we are working with all kinds of people, with different attitudes, set of minds and even characters. We have to put up with all this and play along the game while focusing on surviving, excelling and more importantly reaching where we should be.
We sometimes go through terrible humiliations, embarrassment and at times we feel so stepped such that we only wish to give up because we can allow our ego to be stepped that way..
Well all this , here are 5 things which you should never do at work.

1. Speak, behave or quit out of rage or revenge; we spend more hours at work than anywhere else, so it’s normal and expected that we will experience the full gamut of emotions while engaged in our work.As much as we stay authentic, honest, and transparent as humanly as possible at our jobs.We should never, ever lose it and act on rage. If you act impulsively and rashly at work, you will likely lose much more than your self-respect.
2. Backstab your colleagues;I’m astounded at how many people today feel completely comfortable ridiculing, disparaging or undermining their colleagues, co-workers and even their friends. This is called triangulation – telling a third party about something that makes you anxious or upset instead of dealing with it head on with the individual in question. Why do we do that? Because we lack the courage and fortitude to address the problem directly, or we feel it just won’t work out if we do. It relieves our anxiety to share the problem, but it does nothing to resolve it. But backstabbing your colleagues is a special brand of negative behavior because it aims to hurt. And when you desire to hurt others, it will be you who suffers. That behavior never will, in the long run. You’ll only embarrass and humiliate yourself and it will come back around to bite you eventually.
3. Lie;We tell lies most often when we think that the truth will hurt us somehow, or when we want to avoid facing the consequences of our truth. The problem with lying is two-fold: 1) When you tell yourself you’re not capable of facing reality or dealing with the consequences, you make yourself right – you’ll grow less powerful, capable, bold, respectable, and trustworthy over time, and 2) the lies you tell must be perpetuated, which is exhausting and drains you from vital energy you need to reach your fullest potential.If you have told lies at work – about your skills and talents, experience and background, about the status of work you’re overseeing, or about who you are and what you are capable of, I’d highly recommend taking a long, hard look at what you’re afraid of, and instead of keeping up the front, get in the cage with those fears and begin working through them.
4. Proclaim that you’re miserable; sharing that you hate your job is not the way to go.But what if it’s the truth? My father used to say that there are 10 different ways to say anything, and I think he’s right. Phrases like “miserable,” “unhappy,” “fed up,” “ready to leave,” and “need to go” are not helpful when you’re talking to your colleagues, bosses, or HR staff.What is the better way? Talk about what you’re great at and love to do, what you’ve accomplished, and what you’re ready for. Share your work highlights and new directions you’re excited and committed to take your career, and discuss your plans and desires for growth and change. Open the door for new opportunities at your current employer that will expand your skills, your resume and your talents. Try to find ways at your current job (where you’re already getting paid) to grow, stretch and build yourself. Explore every option available to you for becoming what you want to without walking out in anger and disgust. Your employer might very well be able to sponsor and support your growth and change, but it won’t happen if you stomp in and say “I’m miserable and it’s your fault.”
5. Burn bridges; success is all about relationships. It’s truly about who you know, and how they feel and think about you (and how you make them feel). I’m not saying that your amazing talent and skill aren’t important. Of course they are. I am saying that we don’t thrive and succeed alone. We need other people. And these people are not just our former bosses – they are people who reported to you, teamed with you, shared coffee and drinks with you, took training sessions with you, got yelled at alongside of you, and weathered tough times with you.Every single one of your relationships is vitally important to you and your future, so craft them with care. Avoid people you don’t trust or like, but don’t burn bridges.There are hundreds of people we interact with daily who eventually could become our strongest allies, advocates and fans, if we protect and nurture our relationships as the key, enriching asset they are.
Nice article written by Kathy Caprino.
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Have a nice day.

1 comment:

  1. #2 is da bomb
    I do that almost everyday, its fun and exiting and it actually helps me get over negative feelings
    I think the Kathy stands to be corrected..