Monday, May 26, 2014

5 Things Which ladies should not do to themselves

achieving woman

It’s been said time and again that as humans, we are our own worst enemies. Especially women. We endeavour for that which we simply can not achieve,now, dont draw your weapons just yet. It is okay to desire to be a better person in whichever realm but really ladies, perfection can not be achieved all round. At least not on this planet and in this time and age. 

Food Is Not Thy Enemy
Nora Ephron wrote, “I have made a lot of mistakes falling in love, and regretted most of them, but never the potatoes that went with them.” Women hold on to the perception that their ultimate worth lies in how they look. Hair should be smoothed or perfectly curled, makeup on at all times — but stil natural-looking(WTF??) — and bodies smokin’ hot bangin’ (read: skinny). In the quest to achieve these impossible standards, it’s easy to see food as a necessary evil rather than to enjoy. Its ok to be wary of what you ingest — after all, it’s the only body you have — but try to do drop the guilt. Savor every bite of that Chicken peri peri pizza or that Mint Chocolate Chip ice cream or those fresh cherry tomatoes. Food should not come with regrets.
Social Media Perfection.
Obsessively untagging every “unflattering” photo of you that ever existed online. While it makes sense that you don’t want that photo of you blinking showing up all over your Facebook profile, you probably cause ourselves more anxiety than necessary making sure every image that doesn’t show us in perfect lighting doing something totally amazing goes away. It’s not only just one more way for you to obsess about your looks — after all, people will post what they’ll post and we have little control — but online photo albums have largely replaced physical ones. You may not want to remember the unflattering face you made at your brother’s graduation party now, but down the line you might want to reminisce the moment.

In the same breadth cut the crap that is comparing your real life to someone else’s virtual one. Spending an unrecoverable ton of time obsessing over your own online life can be anxiety-provoking — but so can obsessing over other peoples’ virtual personas. Research indicates social media addiction is correlated with lower self-esteem. And who wouldn’t feel bad sitting in bed on a Monday night scrolling through your ex’s vacation photo album or the enthusiastic statuses your friend in the fashion industry posted during a celeb-filled party? Instead of playing a constant game of comparison, which studies have shown can actually magnify feelings of depression, just close your laptop and enjoy the present. At least it’s real.

Yes You Can
Feeling like an impostor when you accomplish something professionally. Women are more likely than men to feel like “impostors” at work, often doubting whether we deserve the successes we achieve. Start taking your accomplishments at face value. You got that new job or promotion or grade or public recognition because you were worthy of it.
Some things you have control over — like trying to go on dates, and actively meeting new people — while others are simply way out of your scope to control . Finding partner is one of those things. You can’t pinpoint when or where or how you’ll meet someone to spend your life with, so stop getting your panties in a bunch over the idea that you never will. And there are far worse things than being alone. “The most profound relationship we’ll ever have is the one with ourselves,” Shirley MacLaine once said, which is reason enough not to be in a relationships for the sake of having a relationship. If you’re terrified of being alone, the worst thing you can do is jump into a relationship you don’t really want. Nothing good comes from tying yourself to a person who isn’t right for you simply because you feel the need to couple up.
Judging Fellow Ladies’ Sex Life.
No woman deserves to be put down for who she sleeps with, how many people she sleeps with or how she chooses to express her sexuality. Next time you’re about to call another  ‘loose’  just zip it.  But Miley Cyrus is on her own level. And by the way, no one gives two hoots about your “number.” Be honest, you probably care a whole lot more about what the sex you’re having ( pssst or not having) supposedly says about you than anyone.
Setting  Deadlines
Don’t try to meticulously plan out when you should find love or have babies or get that dream job or buy that house. Enjoy the uncertainty of life and allow yourself to be overjoyed when you hit those milestones or pleasantly surprised when you realize you want to skip out on some of them altogether.

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