Tuesday, November 26, 2013

'How Do Africans Kiss '




Well i have to agree with Miss Mill B with what she wrote down here..
Quoting 

"''All About Love'' , a book that deals with Love in general written by bell hooks, focuses its gaze on love in black communities and the lack of a particular, necessary kind of love in black families in America.  
It also talks of the lovelessness in our society in general, how we all cower behind the fear of loving or seeking love because we've been exposed to how much one can hurt as a result of being in love.
How a lot of us engage in risk free casual sex affairs that are devoid of an emotional connection because it's easier to not be vulnerable to somebody else.
How normal it has become for people to say ''I don't want a relationship, I just want to have fun'' meaning they just want sex and not the responsibilities that come with sex. How on earth is that fun if you're the one that's being somebody's c*m bucket?  I've fallen into the trap and I know plenty of people who have engaged in casual sex relationships.
Yes it's fun in the beginning but somebody always gets hurt somewhere along the line, because to some degree, sex without love is violence.
Many of my friends disagree with me on this, as I'm sure many people do, but over the years, my stand point on the subject of casual sex hasn't changed, somebody is always being short changed because they are too afraid to come clean with their emotions.
And whether you like it or not, you do form an emotional connection with someone you are casually boning for a certain period. How many of us can truly continually divorce emotion from a sexual experience? Men have learned to do that but I refuse to believe that they have less emotions than women. They hide them somewhere good but they are there. Again, I digress...

Well said miss Mill B...
Thanks for this.
C

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